Your Questions Answered:
What is Gestalt?
There is no fixed method or one size fits all solution. Gestalt is about working in the present but does not exclude the past. As a Gestalt therapist I enjoy looking at patterns, stuck loops of behaviour and I believe by raising self-awareness this can lead to having more choices and thriving in life. Gestalt focuses on noticing body sensations and tensions and by raising awareness of the body we can become better equipped to self-care. Here is a link explaining more about Gestalt.
How do I know if I need therapy?
The main work in therapy is looking at are you living your life authentically? If not why not? Also how can you be more present in your life. Often by the time some people have booked an appointment they can be very distressed. It really needn't take such a level of suffering to access a supportive space. Only you can decide if you need therapy. Mandy Saligari - celebrity therapist discusses process of Denial in 7 minute clip. She also has a 18 minute Ted Talk about Handle Them Before They Handle You
What happens if I become reliant on you?
During the initial stages of therapy it is normal to feel a sense of urgency and dependency. I strive to empower you, we will work together to develop a set of skills that works for your personality and lifestyle post-therapy. One of the main goals in counselling is to develop the language of self-responsibility and to build up a tool kit of strategies that include body awareness and improved emotional language.
How do you not take work home with you or be able to separate your stuff from what a client brings?
I attend supervision, peer support, CPD workshops and this enables me to process the work, attend to any blind spots and ensures I am working ethically. I practice good self-care. I find the work incredibly powerful, life affirming and rewarding. It is one of the few places authentic dialogue can happen. I witness change happen and that is a privilege to work with on a daily basis.
Isn't counselling advice giving?
Notice a time when someone has given you advice or you have given it. Was it helpful? I recognise that reassurance and advice are temporary fixes to what can be a deep seated issue that requires time and empathy. Counselling is a collaborative, creative process and I also offer opportunity to work with drawings and movement. I respect a client's autonomy and encourage feedback.
What do you work with?
I enjoy the variety of my work which includes loss, anxiety, creative blocks and of course relationship difficulties. I have found a client may initially want to focus on loss and actually we travel to many other places. There is no such thing as a silly question so please email if you would like to know more.